How often we criticize others. And its mostly because we do not accept others as they are and we judge them according to our own value system. Repeated criticism clutters our mind and we remain in a state of negativity. So to avoid becoming a crank and have a peaceful and calm mind lets follow the ‘Mantra’ below:

“To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” ~ Elbert Hubbard

Cheers๐Ÿ™‚

About dilipnaidu

An open mind! Love to share my thoughts and a keenness to learn. An engineer and a MBA I had a wonderful innings in the Army and later moved to consultancy and teaching. My current interests are reading, music, growing culinary herbs, playing golf and yoga. I am serious on "Living life less seriously". A warm welcome to you be well and be cheerful always.

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  1. excellent post, excellent quote, excellent blog!

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  2. girish kohli says:

    Thank you sir for a nice post. shall we trust our instincts if something wrong is being happened to us in our work place??
    Regards,

    Girish kohli

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    • Dilip says:

      Thank you Girish for all the nice comments on my blog articles. Nice of you to remember me after long๐Ÿ™‚

      If something wrong is happening to us we must take suitable action to resolve the issue but without anger or resentment. Our instincts or inner voice will guide you when only your mind is calm and cool๐Ÿ™‚

      Best of luck and thanks.

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  3. girish kohli says:

    Thank you sir, for a nice post in your blog for not to be critical and to accept as they are. But shall we trust our instincts if something wrong is being happened to us??

    Regards,

    Girish kohli

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  4. janineyork says:

    I get this quote exactly. Trying to retrain our brain to look at the positive, or to start by not observing the negative. It leads to the positive.

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    • Dilip says:

      How nice. We do need to try and remain in the positive zone of our lives and not get trapped in negativity.

      So lets be in the present moment.

      Cheers๐Ÿ™‚

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  5. BE LIKE AMOEBA TISSUE… OR ALWAYS LIKE WATER

    BOTH HAVE ONE COMMAN THING THAT THEY DON’T HAVE SHAPE

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  6. drsuraiyanasim says:

    ๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿ™‚

    The best thing is to be critical of our own selves and try to improve on it.

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  7. I have an extremely critical spirit. I criticise myself for being critical!! I will try to keep this mantra in mind. Blessings to you!

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  8. this is definitely food for thought

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  9. Binky says:

    It’s easy to see others’ errors and not our own. If you keep that criticism to yourself, you can sometimes use it constructively to attempt to not repeat the same errors as others.

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  10. K Sriram says:

    Dear Sir,

    the word criticism comes from the greek ‘kritikos’ which means to be able to make judgments & kritikos in turn is derived from ‘kritinen’ which means to ‘separate, decide’ (etymonline). However, we all go by the popular usage of the word to mean – fault finding. In that context the quote makes sense because – ANY action can be faulted with & hence if you have never been found fault with then obviously you have done nothing!

    But what is the deeper significance of the quote? what is the author telling us?

    A perfect judge will read each work of wit
    With the same spirit that its author writ;
    [Pope, “An Essay on Criticism,” 1709]

    So what is the author’s spirit behind his wit – which is – If you LIVE then there is BOUND to be CRITICISM of some form of the other at some level or the other – so its more like a ‘DEFAULT’ setting. So what does one do with DEFAULT SETTINGS? one learns to live with them, perhaps seek ways to overcome them if they are limiting or better still try & find some utility in them so that it is used as a ‘spring board’ for growth!

    So it is to be with criticism – Its UNAVOIDABLE – so no point trying to be a PLEASE ALL to AVOID – because its an impossibility. Getting this into our ‘ruuh’ or ‘our bones’ as Churchill would say – is important – so that then we can look at it as – ok its going to be there any which way – so what can i do about it? – is there anything i can ‘learn’ (utility) – if i don’t see any – then – can i not just leave it outside – or like in the earlier post – just hang it on some tree as it is not ‘worth’ ‘brooding over’….

    Then comes the deeper question – How does one decide – which criticism to accept, which to reject & to what extent or degree? – the answer to this takes us to the realms of understanding the source of criticism.

    Criticism is comprised of – a critic, an object criticism & the subject. – So there is this ‘expert’ who criticizes ‘us’ for ‘some aspect of us’. So we need to then judge the ‘expertise of the expert’ – we need to know ‘us’ and the ‘aspect of us’ – all three ‘objectively’ inorder to be able to decide appropriately on the ‘reaction’ to criticism.

    Phew! tall order? but the fundamental strand is – viewing ourself ‘objectively’! then we can view others ‘objectively’. Our default view is subjective – Me Vs Outside Me. But if we step back and look at Me as an object – as a third person – then it makes us understand criticism better & therefore handle the ‘reaction’ better.

    Its but a simple trick which will go a long way in helping us establish better relationships, which then becomes the source of joy and happiness and therefore PEACE.

    So lets reflect on the Wit of the Quote; Dive a bit deeper – grasp the significance of it & make it a ‘mantra’ for seeking objectivity in our transactions in life !

    Cheers!

    Sriram

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    • Dilip says:

      Wow Sriram beautifully explained! Criticism must be take on the chin and we must not get affected. Fearing criticism and not doing any thing is not the way to live life.
      Many thanks my friend๐Ÿ™‚

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  11. parth893 says:

    true Really true .

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  12. Shoba Menon says:

    Critisism should be done modestly as everyone has their own flaws, but we have the right to point out the facts ! Loved this quote!

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  13. asha says:

    Constant criticism can damaging, leading to low self esteem..Mutual respect and acceptance is key to any healthy relationship

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  14. so true Dilip,we more often than not crib about others annoying habits forgetting or completely being blind eye to our owns…

    so agree with the Quote..don’t want critisism become a nothing
    or go ahead do your thing and learn to live and take the constructive ones and grow

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    • Dilip says:

      That’s very well said Soma. Cribbing about others is non productive might as well look inwards and improve ourselves.๐Ÿ™‚

      Many thanks for stopping by.

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  15. I’ve always accepted people for what they are. However, I do criticize myself a lot…
    Hmmm!
    This quote makes you think, doesn’t it?!
    Thank you, Dilip.๐Ÿ™‚

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  16. Betsy Cross says:

    I used a quote of Elbert Hubbard’s today as well! LOL! This too has been on my mind- to quiet my mind and focus on the positive. Love this!

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    • Dilip says:

      Oh what a happy coincidence.๐Ÿ™‚
      Yes we need to remember that if we criticize others we strengthen our ego. And that leads to negativity.
      Thanks for stopping by.

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  17. Madhu says:

    I think the quote is meant in the context of not trying to avoid criticism, or shunning ‘living’ even, because of the fear of criticism.
    But yes, I hate judgmental people and I would assume they do too๐Ÿ™‚

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    • Dilip says:

      That’s a nice interpretation. If the criticism is for our good and not a rant anyone will welcome it. Judgmental folk are generally egoist and often pontify – therefore avoided.
      I appreciate your perspective on this quote.

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  18. I am in conformity with the comment, “easy to judge the errors of others but difficult to recognize oneโ€™s own.”
    In this context it is negative criticism, which must be avoided. However, constructive criticism is positive & must be made for evolving concepts. Here novel thoughts, about Planning, organising, executing & methodology adopted, are proposed; with a view to promote efficiency. Thus, constructive criticism requires mental & maybe physical action.
    Therefore, I would conclude by saying, โ€˜Avoid negative criticism but do take an active role in constructive criticism.โ€™

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    • dilipnaidu says:

      Well said Sunder. A criticism becomes positive when it is devoid of ego. Such constructive criticism is always received positively by the person for whom it is meant.

      Many thanks๐Ÿ™‚

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  19. Dilip says:

    Yes Renu at first I too felt the same. But I guess ‘do nothing’ means do not criticize.
    Cheers๐Ÿ™‚

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  20. renu says:

    I cant agree with this quote..doing nothing is never a solution for anything…instead think positive, and do good and dont worry about criticism..

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