One reason why we unnecessarily load our mind with worry is a feeling of guilt on our past actions. “Oh why did I do what I did – and now I may have to suffer”. But if we look back at or lives most of the problems which we feared never did happen. Yet we lost our precious Peace of mind and health. And nothing is more precious in this world than our Peace of Mind.

So one way to maintain a calm and peaceful mind is to just ‘Let Go’ and not blame ourselves. Because what ever happened ‘had to happen’. So no point in blaming ourselves.
We need to just ‘Let Go’!

And how to ‘Let Go’? You can find the answer in the Saying below:

Cheers & have fun πŸ™‚

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About dilipnaidu

An open mind! Love to share my thoughts and a keenness to learn. An engineer and a MBA I had a wonderful innings in the Army and later moved to consultancy and teaching. My current interests are reading, music, growing culinary herbs, playing golf and yoga. I am serious on "Living life less seriously". A warm welcome to you be well and be cheerful always.

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  1. Exactly! People stay living lives ‘in the past’ and running the ancient events over and over like a tape.. It totally takes us away from the present moment, which is the only Time where we can make a difference or change, or finally start living…
    Most of the events we worried about never happened, and most of the opinions of others we feared were never the case.
    The new day starts with blessing and letting go of yesterday β™₯

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    • Dilip says:

      Welcome and thank you for these lovely words which are so true. Yes “The new day starts with blessing and letting go of yesterday”. I reminded of Eckhart Tolle quote ~ ‘The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it.”

      Thank you for your visit.

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  2. Wonderful and true message! Thanks for sharing the life in your words, for they are so very meaningful!

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  3. drsuraiyanasim says:

    Thanks a million for posting this. I really needed it.

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  4. Madhu says:

    True, guilt is almost always the culprit Dilip!
    Our yoga studio had a unique session to help us come to terms with these issues and let go. They held a havan, into which we had to drop little bits of paper in which we had written down the things that were plaguing us. That symbolic gesture of burning our anger or guilt, actually helped clear my mind of the baggage I had carried around for some time!! And I am not the least bit religious!

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    • dilipnaidu says:

      Hi Madhu I can imagine how effective would be the ‘process’ you follow at the Yoga Studio. Great way to off-load the clutter in our minds and make us feel lighter and relaxed. Thanks for sharing.

      Cheers πŸ™‚

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  5. jakesprinter says:

    Great Things always happen ,I always think of it everyday ,
    Happy New Year my friend thanks for sharing πŸ™‚

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  6. 1EarthUnited says:

    A perfect post about acceptance, and making peace with what is. We attract what we need for our soul development, everything is as it should be. Great post!

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  7. Asifa Zunaidha says:

    That’s so true… It’s very baffling sometimes but it’s better to believe that that’s the only perfect thing to have happened and to move on…

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  8. ajaytao2010 says:

    lovely dilip

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  9. swalia says:

    Holding on is being brave, but letting go and moving on is often what makes us stronger and happier.Thanks for your amazing post.

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    • Dilip says:

      Welcome Swalia. What you say is so true yet difficult – as we need to change our mindset and attitudes to be able to ‘Let Go’.

      Thank you for stopping by. Cheers πŸ™‚

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  10. Celeste says:

    Thank you for the likes! I think that your blog is so inspirational, ciao

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  11. I really like to believe this right now. I often think everything happens for a reason but at the same time I can’t find that reason sometimes. πŸ™‚

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  12. Sahajo says:

    Namaste,

    Wonderful Post Sir and the comments by Sriram Sir..
    It so happens that I am worried for some thing and when the thing takes place, i realize that there was no need to worry so much about it.
    It is also said that “Everything happens for good” so i am in full agreement of the Mantra “Let Go….”

    Thanks,
    Sahajo

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    • Dilip says:

      Namaskar Sahajo always good to hear from you. This quote say that whatever happened had to happen – whether for good or for bad. Glad you saw the positive dimension of it πŸ™‚
      Cheers & thanks

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  13. We fear our actions, then the repercussions and quite often lose our peace of mind. Absolutely true. Nothing can be done about them but accepting the fact that everything, even the smallest bit is the best that could have happened has been said so many times, still it is so difficult to live with this truth.. We keep getting worried and keep losing the goodness in life.

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  14. Purnimodo says:

    “Every single thing we encounter in life is absolutely perfect’ love this!! πŸ™‚

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  15. utesmile says:

    You are sooo right, we need to let the “what ifs” and “should haves” go as there is no point. The past is over and we cannot change it, so accepting it is the easy worry free option. Great post.

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  16. 1EarthUnited says:

    I like this Let Go mantra very much. So who’s the author, R.N.?

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    • Dilip says:

      I am so glad you liked the Mantra. I found it quite stress relieving. I got this Mantra from a friend and the author is unknown. RN helped to make a photo shop image of it. Kind regards.

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  17. Summer says:

    Hallo there : )

    I’ve nominate you for The LIebster Award : ) You can see it here, http://summer4soul.wordpress.com/2012/12/15/blog-nominations-its-like-giving-a-christmas-
    present/

    Congratulations!

    Sweet greetings, Summer

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  18. Martine says:

    This is so true and I can oh so relate to that right now … thanks for the reminder Dilip!

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  19. burgessart says:

    Hi Dilip, That says exactly what I often try to put into words…….Thank you so much. Robert

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  20. K Sriram says:

    This is basically what Sri Ramana Maharishi & the Masters before him said – Whatever has to happen, will happen however ‘hard’ you try with your efforts to prevent it from happening; whatever has not to happen will not happen however hard you try with your efforts to make it happen, hence the best is to be ‘equipoised’ at all times.

    The Serenity Prayer extends this further – Lord give me the courage to change that which i can; fortitude to accept that which i cannot & the wisdom to know the difference!

    I am not sure of the source, but there is this oft quoted phrase which goes – the saddest words in life is to say ‘I should have….’ It is looking back with a sense of regret that which has ‘passed’….

    It is not mere serendipity that this quote follows the previous one, for they are interconnected.

    When does regret emerge? What is its source? and Why at all is there regret?

    The fundamental characteristic of regret is it is only in ‘hindsight’ after some event has happened or not happened that there is any regret. There is no forward looking regret or regret in the present.

    So regret is a hindsight, postmortem based phenomenon. Why then do we indulge in it? Why do we obsess with it?

    The evolutionary reason for regret to exist is to make us better decision makers and to help us not repeat the mistakes of the past. However, we do not use this device for what it was meant as we do not with so many of the devices at our disposal! talk of ‘abuse’…
    We engage with regret as a fantasy – what all could have happened, as though our dreaming about what could have been will correct the ‘mistakes’, wash away our ‘sins’ or make us ‘grab the next opportunity’ when it shows up…

    Since our predisposition is to be unbalanced & overindulgent even about a protective mechanism, Our Masters came up with things like ‘This too shall pass’; and such above quotes etc. to keep reminding us that & making us see through the game of regret and making us aware that regret is like electricity a wonderful servant but a bad master. Use regret & we become better persons, by eliminating behaviors that led to regretful situations, but indulging regret & following regret often leads us astray & into depression.

    So the path of not doing what we don’t want to leads us straight into a regret free life… a ‘witness’ approach or living in serenity too take us there!

    Way to go!

    Cheers!

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  21. Lubna says:

    Forgiving others is easier than forgiving our own selves. Tough call, this.

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  22. Binky says:

    That’s an interesting way to look at what has already happened. I’ll have to try to do that.

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  23. It’s a very good way to think. Things happen because of a reason……destiny. What’s going to happen is going to happen. Thanks for sharing – I enjoyed reading it.

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  24. Suhas says:

    Why did I do what I did??
    Was it inadvertently done?
    Did I do something I should not have done?
    If you helped a person and later found that he was fake and did not need help, (may be) you will say, ” Why did I do it? Will it have an adverse effect on me?” But forget it; as it was done in good faith. You lost nothing.

    Did I did it deliberately?
    If you did something wrong deliberately; it will bother you off & on.
    e.g. You did not help an old man cross the road though you had enough time.
    But if you helped him even though you were in a hurry; you will feel happy for the right action. Memory of these incidents called β€œAPOHANAM” can remain in the mind.
    In the first case a feeling of guilt will remain in the mind. Too much of this can affect your health.

    Try to forget. Things are destined to happen.

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    • Dilip says:

      Wah wah Suhas beautiful words loaded with rich experience. And β€œAPOHANAM” is a term I would love to explore more on. And I agree enrirely with the last line: “Try to forget” and move it further to “Just forget” πŸ™‚
      Thanks buddy.

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  25. renu says:

    Loved the thoughts and it brings so much of peace to us if we believe in this..

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  26. soumyav says:

    wonderful and a wise thought that is often ignored by everyone! we tend to exaggerate and pull the situations stressfully!

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  27. very true dilip sir.. whatever happens has to happen for sure and everything that has happened or will happen will be because of some reason for sure

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  28. manju says:

    Yes, letting go is so important. Easier said than done though, as most of us have the tendency to second-guess ourselves.

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  29. I believe this is very true!
    Thank you so much Dilip!
    πŸ™‚

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  30. irfan says:

    Letting go is really very important….. in fact, holding on to negative energy does nothing but attract more negativity and therefore negative events. Focusing on what you want, feeling good as much as possible, and taking inspired action definitely allow you to manifest and attract the life of your dreams……

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  31. There is no forgiveness for betrayal or for the commission of horrible acts in my thinking despite Christian upbringing so it is very hard for me. I have moved beyond thoughts of revenge or obsessing or thinking about such things so that is a great of kinda letting go comfort. That everything that was supposed to happen indeed did happen is little condolence and it is no sense contemplating the matter so there is acceptance at least on that point. Some things may never be resolved according to the wisdom of the post in my case but I have learned not to allow such matters to shackle me and have moved on and am somewhat free to remain doing so. I will not let those things rent space in my mind as best I can.

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    • Dilip says:

      Dear Carl that is a well thought out response – on the ‘commission’ of horrible acts. But what appeals to be big-time is that you have ‘moved beyond thoughts of revenge’. And the words “I will not let those things rent space in my mind as best I can” is a great lesson for all in ‘letting go’.

      What you have been able to do very few can – I admit I myself still have a long way to go. Your words serve as an inspiration to me in my quest.

      Cheers & many good wishes coming your way!

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      • Arindam Saha says:

        Good thought. However the statement alone may be interpreted wrongly so as to believe that we should be lazy and let the things unfold on their own.

        On this I would like to add that whatever was supposed to happen has happened; however the one who does the work gets credited. In order to get the credit, we must try hard, as if not us then someone else might get the credit for the work (from my understanding of Srimad Bhagawad Gita)

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