We know that true forgiveness can give us manifold benefits. When we are unforgiving we prevent our natural healing powers to work on us. Pent-up anger and hate is corrosive from within and our fists remain clenched not allowing the abundance of universal energy to flow in. But when forgiveness comes from deep within our heart – our palms open skyward ready to receive.

The beautiful quote below illustrates the essence of true forgiveness.

So lets forgive all those who have hurt us and above all forgive our own selves too.


About dilipnaidu

An open mind! Love to share my thoughts and a keenness to learn. An engineer and a MBA I had a wonderful innings in the Army and later moved to consultancy and teaching. My current interests are reading, music, growing culinary herbs, playing golf and yoga. I am serious on "Living life less seriously". A warm welcome to you be well and be cheerful always.

71 responses »

  1. Sumant Chavan says:

    Very true, unforgiveness leaves bitterness!

  2. Dilip, many thanks for giving face to ‘forgiveness’; for, understanding & practicing it, is imperative for the emotional well-being of mankind. Simply put, forgiveness is ‘a shift in thinking’ toward someone who has wronged you, such that your desire to harm that person has decreased and your desire to do the person good (or to benefit your relationship), has increased. At a minimum, forgiveness is a decision to let go of the desire for revenge and ill-will toward the person who wronged you. The process to achieve the said Shift is easier said than done. It requires a change in attitude, to nurture such a Shift.
    The Quote is soaked with invaluable treasures of the Soul! Only the blessed can bring forth such spiritual wonders. I say this because, many may not have experienced or realised how low, can an unforgiving person stoop! The refreshingly ecstatic feeling of the sweet fragrance of a flower, so far removed from the reprehensive thought of an unforgiving person, appears so motivating to work toward the Paradigm Shift of Forgiveness.

    • Dilip says:

      Dear Sunder what a lovely response. You have articulated the core meaning of the theme beautifully. In fact it enhances the spirit of the post so well that even the hardened unforgiving mind may relent and “Let GO”.
      Thank you my friend for contributing your positivity and be very well.

  3. luchaniktravel says:

    I would never have thought of it that way; this is a wonderful way to think of forgiveness.

  4. Beautiful quote and post. I do agree with Otrazheinie comment to Carl’s shockingly sad story….his freedom will come by forgiving because then he becomes free of her and her influence…otherwise such evil keeps him imprisoned for years and the ex-wife continues to have power over Carl. Thank you Dilip.

  5. Paula says:

    A beautiful quote Dilip!

  6. The quote you shared is thought provoking. I had never thought of it that way–that as we are “crushed” even then we should be giving off a sweet scent–the sweetness of our spirit should be shining through, even in that moment. That’s beautiful. Or, forgiveness is so sweet, that when inside of us, and we are broken, still our beauty comes out. I’m thinking on this one.

    • dilipnaidu says:

      Wow that’s a beautiful interpretation. I particularly love your words – ‘forgiveness is so sweet, that when inside of us, and we are broken, still our beauty comes out’. Kind of you.

  7. Lovely post dear Dilip. Margie

  8. Ankita sen says:

    Hello sir,,,Thank you so much sir…you are my inspiration for many things!!!
    May the love of god always shine in your life,as you become a light for others..:-)

    With regards and have a pleasant day.

  9. Ankita sen says:

    Read your Forgiveness quotes…its a great inspiration for everyone…thanks sir,you have always been an inspiration to me……There is no love without forgiveness…soo forget and forgive all..:-)

    • Dilip says:

      Hi Ankita thank you for your beautiful words – “there is no love without forgiveness”! It was just yesterday that I thought of you – a sheer coincidence🙂

      With kind regards and wish you the very best.

  10. artzent says:

    Sometimes its hardest to forgive yourself! True life post. Thank you

  11. As always, very moving!

  12. Nisha says:

    Beautiful words and what an inspiring post it is !!
    God bless you.

  13. seemashenoy says:

    Love the quote…By not forgiving we tend to hold on to pleople and experiences from the past, recreating similar experiences in or present…One has to open the windows to let in fresh air and rays of healing light!!

  14. ajay says:

    thanks a lot for sharing such a simple but effective method to get red of stress, pressure, pains and failures. In fact forgiveness is not something we do for others. we do it for ourselves- to get well and move forward. On this third sikh guru RAMDASS says”RAMDASS sarovar nahate sab utare paap kamate. (meaning when you take a dip in the holy water one should leave all the previous sins there and come out afresh. Acceptance of the any situation you are in will always shift you in the present moment and make you feel free. with warm regards.ajay

  15. pennycoho says:

    An excellent post, thank you. I’ve found the thing about forgiveness is that when it is really really hard to forgive someone for a transgression, the gift of forgiveness then becomes a mighty thing for the both of you, very hard to do, but very mighty once done!

  16. Forgiveness is really about letting go… your comparison to a crushing flower is very creative

  17. I have recently found forgiveness with someone who crushed me and now our relationship is as fragrant as the flowers…I will have to share this with her.

  18. To give forgive someone is indeed a very brave thing to do!

    • dilipnaidu says:

      🙂 greet you with a smile BTW I just read your blog Tayyaba its super and original! What you say here is true – “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong” ~ Mahatma Gandhi


  19. Bindu says:

    Reminds me of A Poison Tree. Great message, but often we realize it late, when the harm would already have been done.

  20. pdhillon says:

    Forgiveness is not always easy. Thanks Sir, for sharing this. Miss you and my class fellows.

    • dilipnaidu says:

      Oh Poonam,

      I am so glad you liked it. Feel good to hear from you missed you in class – you friends have all flown away with their MBAs to different destinations🙂

  21. lessandragr says:

    I had been praying to forgive anyone I was holding anger or resentment against – and, of course was well aware of the 2-3 close friends/relatives and had forgiven them. But, much to my surprise, one day a waitress whom I had worked with 30 years ago popped into my head, and I realized I still had resentment and anger towards her (subconsciously) for stealing a $5. tip off my table and then denying it. This happened several more times over a short period simply because I had prayed to be made aware if there was anyone I had not forgiven. Boy, was I surprised! These people were not significant in my life but the resentments I held were just as detrimental as the ones I had held against my close friends or relatives. Thank you for a very worthwhile post!

    • dilipnaidu says:

      Lessandra forgiving people who are remotely connected to you is truly something wonderful. Also things which happened 30 years ago. A perfectly inspiring example.
      Thank you so much for sharing.

      Kind regards.

  22. amira says:

    the quote is one I need today🙂
    to feel the natural healing powers …

  23. SUHAS says:

    Forgiveness or KSHAMA is not easy. It is a mis understood word. One may feel like pardoning someone who annoyed you . You may feel an achievement if you pardon some one by saying.” CHALO TUMHE MAAF KIYA” But this forgiveness has a smell of
    ” I ” which this blog discussed recently…Real Ksama is in realising,”If I was in those conditions; I would have done the same”
    Remember “La misrable” (pardon my spelling).

    There are two more misunderstood words viz. Bramhachari & Ahmsa.
    We can discuss if our friend Dilip agrees..

    • dilipnaidu says:

      Dear Suhas my friend this blog belongs to all and I would love to share your valuable insights with our blogger friends.

      I agree 100% with you ” CHALO TUMHE MAAF KIYA” But this forgiveness has a smell of ” I ” which this blog discussed recently. This is a important hidden barrier to release our emotions even after our pseudo ‘forgiveness’.🙂

      Thanks buddy and cheers.

  24. supriyadhende says:

    It requires a huge heart to forgive someone….. Very less people embrace it…..


    • dilipnaidu says:

      What you say Supriya is true. But when we come to realize our physical and mental sufferings are due to our holding on to hatred and bitterness we get the strength to let go. Even if we have no major ailments and we ‘let go’ and forgive our fists open and life becomes lighter and full of joy.

      Cheers and thank you for stopping by.

  25. Geetha says:

    Dear Sir,

    Thank you very much for the lovely picture, the beautiful quote and the powerful thought about the power to receive.

    As Bishop Fulton Sheen said “Each of us comes into life with fists closed, set for aggressiveness and acquisition, but when we abandon life our hands are open; there is nothing on earth we need, nothing the soul can take with it.”

    In taking revenge, a man is but even with his enemy; but in passing it over, he is superior~ Sir Francis Bacon

    “So lets forgive all those who have hurt us and above all forgive our own selves too.”

    Forgiving our own selves is more difficult at times because we tend to beat ourselves up!

    I like what has been written here about ‘Equality & Forgiveness in the Bhagavad Gita’:


    In fact, there’s a lot about forgiveness in the Gita. Here’s a sample from Wiki on ‘forgiveness’ in different religions:


    I agree with Biswadip. Teek bolechen apni, Biswadip. Yeh Dil Maange More! : )

    Thanks and regards,


    • dilipnaidu says:

      Geetha both the quotesBishop Sheen and Sir Francis bring out the essence of forgiveness powerfully. Jennifer Whitney’s thoughts too are meaningful. I have put ‘my like’ on her blog.

      And young Biswadip’s thoughts make us believe that the generation of tomorrow is mature and wise.

      Thank you so much.

  26. WOWO.. now that is a beautiful comparison , a flower’s fragrance when it is being crushed…

    I am not that good a person , I cant forgive easily , lets hope i am able to

    • dilipnaidu says:

      Bulls eye Bikram just imagine how a flower (nature) releases its wonderful fragrance even when being crushed. That’s natures way and you and me included🙂
      Thanks friend always good to read your thoughts.

  27. Otrazhenie says:

    Loved your quote, Dilip. It inspired me to add a few more quotes on forgiveness on my blog – “Do not judge” at http://otrazhenie.wordpress.com/2012/08/18/do-not-judge/ and ‘We will know thw work of forgiveness is complete…’ at http://otrazhenie.wordpress.com/2012/08/18/we-will-know-the-work-of-forgiveness-is-complete/ Thanks for sharing your thoughts and wisdom.🙂

    • dilipnaidu says:

      I viewed your posts and videos and found them very soothing. Yes I very much believe in the “Do not judge” ever! Thank you very much for spreading peaceful thoughts.

      Kind regards.

  28. soumyav says:

    true essence of a blissful life— to forgive!

  29. irfaaaann says:

    yes, the best way to feel better after being hurt is not through revenge but forgiveness….but again, its not that easy always….

    • dilipnaidu says:

      Yes Irfanyou are right it certainly is not easy. But a stage comes when we realize that we have had enough of suffering and it is better to swallow our ego and be at peace with ourselves.

      • Biswadip says:

        Reaching the stage of forgiveness should be a vision for everyone and a journey not a destination.Is that stage called “Self actualization” sir? somewhere read “Forgive is to let go but to never let it be forgotten”.An oxymoron to me.
        I personally love two great quotes of Mahatma Gandhi about forgiveness 1) “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” 2) If we practice an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth, soon the whole world will be blind and toothless”.
        .From कम बोलो मीठा बोलो,Banish Ego to The essence of Forgiveness…the journey is not yet over.यह दिल मांगे मोर!🙂
        Kind Regards,

      • dilipnaidu says:

        Biswadip … your response on forgiveness includes two powerful quotes which take this post to greater depths. Self actualization??🙂 Yes I too believe that forgiveness would be one of the main characteristics of a ‘SA’ person.

        यह दिल मांगे मोर!🙂 🙂 मेरे भाई Biswa da हमारे हाथ मे कुच भी नही है … जो दिल मे अच्छा लगआ बस ब्लोग पर चढआ दिया …. अपने दोस्तो के साथ share करणे के लिये …

        Cheers my young friend … tomorrow inshaallah we say bye bye in class after a memorable association … but hope you keep in touch wherever you go .. with all my best wishes for a happy and joyful future

  30. Beautiful words as always, Dilip…

  31. The 12-Step program of AA advocates both of these protocols .
    When I was divorced ex accused me molesting my little daughter . Took 2 years to settle. I am not forgiving even though 25 years ago. I could have lost my teacher certificate and went to prison. I have at least gotten to the point where I do not obsess and do not seek revenge and that is best I can do. The !2-Steps program speaks of forgiving one’s self but I think that is quite absurd as only God can do that.

    • Otrazhenie says:

      Such a sad story, Carl. So sad and unfair. I’ve seen such stories in my life – posted one of them on my blog at http://otrazhenie.wordpress.com/2012/08/11/nina/ with a few links to a few organisation that try to help men caught in similar situations. Share your story with them and help others.

      With regard to forgiveness, the main point of forgiveness is to heal your heart – “to set your heart free from the anger, bitterness and resentment and hurt” that imprisons you. Don’t forgive for the sake of your ex-wife – forgive for your own sake if you can….

    • dilipnaidu says:

      Carl … you face a highly distressing challenge of a lifetime. I do sincerely hope and trust you find the right way to peace. It is kind of Otrazhenie to express her support.

      With all good wishes! Regards.

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