About dilipnaidu

An open mind! Love to share my thoughts and a keenness to learn. An engineer and a MBA I had a wonderful innings in the Army and later moved to consultancy and teaching. My current interests are music and growing culinary herbs. Love to play golf and do yoga regularly. I am serious on "Living life less seriously". A warm welcome to you be well and be cheerful always.

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  1. Dilip Naidu says:

    Hi Banu … I think giving 100% is a practical way of ‘being in the present’. Not having expectations about the result is another powerful attitude. It’s not easy but I guess with practice all of us can learn & improve. Yes I agree breathing exercises and meditation if done regularly are great processes to get us in the above state.

    Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this. We all learn & gets inspired from each other.


  2. Banu H says:

    Much more experienced people have given their thoughts on this one. My two cents is – Always look at the bigger picture. I always try to do my level best and put my 100% into whatever I am doing and if I am satisfied with it, that is what matters, because I cannot control the out come all the time and I have accepted that fact. But I do not want to feel anxious that I have not done my best and this is something that is in my control and I can do my best there and then leave the rest to fate, destiny or whatever else. This has helped me get through my anxious moments.

    I have also learnt Pranayama – breathing excercises and they do help a lot and I am trying to incorporate more of it in my day to day life.


  3. Dilip Naidu says:

    Hi Ruth … You posted a very useful tip to relieve stress … combining breathing and meditation as taught by John … does John conduct meditation classes or does he provides assistance on-line? .. I am sure many friends would like to know this valuable practice … thanks … Dilip


  4. Ruth Patterson says:

    Stress Relief =

    Tai Chi, Stress Balls, Physical Therapies, etc.

    Just learning how to breate with meditation can be a wonderful experience. John taught me how to breathe. I use his technique when things are going my way, to clear my mind for free thinking and constructive thoughts.


  5. Dilip Naidu says:

    Arun Deshpande
    Commander, security and training at third line asc battalion, indian army

    dear dilip and friends, i have been practicing pranayam, yogasanas to a large extent and meditation to a little extent. combine with this the homely ayurvedic medicines. trust me all these not only maintain peaceful mind in stress and duress but keep one both physically and mentally healthy. i have honestly assisted in curing many a people from liver problems, cancer (the cure may not be in totality but sure shot positive improvements are seen), kidney ailments and many other problems. all this is possible due to pure dedication through faith and sincerity.
    request share your thoughts on this.
    lt col arun deshpande


  6. dilipnaidu says:

    Lt Col M.D.Sundar (Retd)
    Analytical and Highly Creative Consultant / Strategist

    Through meditation!


  7. dilipnaidu says:

    BVN Rao
    Serving Sapper Lt Col in a Command HQ

    I am now in a most “ANXIOUS” Moment of my life. My Mantra is simple, tomorrow will be a brighter day, everyday cant be cloudy and hazy.
    “Good Friend(s)” also help tide over the stress.


  8. dilipnaidu says:

    Ram Raghavan
    Managing Director at Talengene

    Anxiety occurs when you realise that you are not in control. If one believes in the eastern philiosophy , then they need to realise that they are not the implementors but the implemented. The clash occurs when the “I” in them cannot control outcomes, which results in anxiety and manifests as stress. So from an eastern perspective, realise that one cant control everything and when that realisation sets in they start to look things from a bigger perspective and realise this is nothing…I would like to point to the story of a man who used to say “everything is for good”…

    If one believes in the western way of life where destiny is what you make of it, then it does create scars. The fact is no one really believed that the world would be in such a mess it is today and anxiety sets in when one realises that despite all the thoughts put in things are beyond ones control… so is it destiny? Not surprising to see a lot of activity these days in the church or any other place of worship.. That kind of leans towards faith which again shows that when “i” is pushed to the back seat that can lead to surrender and relieve anxiety.

    However, if we look at it from a neurological perspective, all our actions have either been influenced by beliefs or feelings. Beliefs operate at the rational level. To believe something you just need some evidence that it works.. so, any event can instill belief in people if they see it work. If it works constantly then that results in knowledge which is Knowing ledged on beliefs.. However the premise on which the knowledge has been built could also be “untrue” or “false”. In that case the belief directed behaviour gets anxious as a feeling of helplessness creeps in. At this juncture there is no knowledge to support ones beliefs…

    Similarly if we look at it from the feeling level its emotionally driven… it is minds instant response to a situation or problem. There is no rationality behind the action or inaction in this case and it is more sense driven… Again when that fails a sense of helplessness sets in… if someone is emotionally dependant, if the umblical cord is cut between that individual and the person they are dependant on, that results in anxiety…

    The problem in this case is we are forced to think as either positive or negative i.e we are either rational or emotional.. however, life is not absolutes and it operates in shades of grey. So there is a midway that exists which is operating at the volitional level. When one operates at the volitional level which is values governed then they tend to step back when faced with an issue to understand what is the value of an action or inaction.. Neurologically that area is called the dynamic core or the limbic system- the thalamus n hypo t region which governs our values.

    Now if we operate from a volitional level what we are doing is detatching ourselves from the scenario and evaluating the situation without any bias and trying to align the consequences of an action or inaction from a value perspective. That would definitely reduce anxiety. Funny enough when you visit a temple or a church all you do is detatch yourself from the world out there and get in touch with your inner self.. a sense of calmness a sense of virtue all set in after a visit to the church which is the volitional behaviour…


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